Two years and counting

Baby this one's just for you, i cant really place why i deserve you. You've made me laugh all the way, you've been my joy and i cant help it when i fall even deeper in love with you. You do not deserve any less from me. Even in my shortcomings, you still encourage me to be my best. Everyday i pray to have a better relationship with you..its just been God and i know he has been with us, he's still with us and he will continue to be with us. Ayobami Eniola Dada, I love and cherish you so much! May God continue to bless and enrich you every single day. I love to love you more!

Fashion Fit

Fashion Fit

We all carry a different meaning of fashion and we have our own opinions on how fashion should be but I must say this; fashion is the way it ministers to us and I believe it is what suits us. I for one, I believe there’s nothing new in fashion. It is just a reinvention of the old and maybe modifying what has been in vogue before. Normally, I will always emphasize moderation because there is beauty in the simple things of life….please I pray thee, don’t attack me. I know what you are about to say…lol! Let me pick my fashion items and see if I could help.

1.      My Make-up kit. This consists of my eye-shadow, face powder, mascara, blush, lipgloss, lipstick, and eye-pencil/lipliner, foundation, set of brushes and not forgetting my facial cleanser! It is always advisable to invest in good make-up and you should know one when you see one. Asides the designer make-up, there are good ones that are easy to come by also. Ok, let’s go about applying make-up. The foundation serves the function of smoothening the face and covering up spots and blemishes likewise the concealer, it helps to bake up the face and leaves it smooth. It is advisable to use that which is suitable for the skin and your skin colour. There is the oil-based foundation and the water-based foundation. Some foundations serve the function of the brown powder. You may need not apply powder to your face anymore after applying the foundation but please note that it is very necessary to apply the one that goes with your skin colour to avoid you looking lighter or too dark. It is also necessary to use good applicators, tissue is a no-no item when making-up.

The face powder is another item. Brown powder is preferred to white powder. Good quality brown powder when applied also gives you a smooth and silky look. It is also very important to apply the colour that suits your skin complexion.

The blush is another item in the kit. This helps in giving a lift in the face and should be applied on the cheeks. It may not necessarily be applied though; it only enhances a smile on your face and hides wrinkled parts of the face. It is better to apply little than too much so as not to end up looking like a clown. The duster brush is best used when applying blush to your cheeks.

The eye-shadow adds spice to the eyes. There are so many shades to pick from. When applying the eye-shadow, paste brushes and duster brushes should be used. You should also consider your skin complexion; I always prefer cool shades because I’m chocolate-skinned. Also occasion, time and place demands how loud or cool your make-up should be. For costume and runway, loud make-up is necessary especially when trying to make a statement. Also some events and ceremonies call for such. Your eye-shadow is the first thing that calls attention when you are in the midst of people. For example, your eye-shadow when in an office environment should be reserved; it makes you look unserious and unprofessional when you have too much make-up on.

Lipgloss & Lipstick. These items give a wonderful statement to the lips. The lipgloss helps the lips to shine and gives it life. Invest in good lipglosses that could last on the lips a day without any breakage and avoid those ones that leave whitish contours on the lips after a while, except you want to keep your mouth closed the whole day. You should also have a favorite shade of lipstick, make sure it suits your skin complexion and must blend with the rest of your make-up. Pick a shade that also blends with the location you are at the time.

Lipliners/Eye pencils. This make-up item can be used to line the lips and also helps darken the eye brows. Not necessarily used all the time though but shows the difference when used.

The hand & body cream. This is a must have for everyone

The nail polish

2.      Clothings. These consist of a variety of wears that serve as coverings for different weathers and occasions. The tops, t-shirts, corporate shirts, blouses, jeans, pants, shorts, dresses, corduroys, jackets, scarfs, bolero, dinner wears, etc. The jean pant is our everyday wear and it goes with almost everything and appropriate for most occasions and places. It is referred to as casual clothing because it reduces a lot of stress when it comes to choosing what to wear. It can be worn with corporate shirts, tee-shirts, blouses, tops and even short dresses.

3.      Hair & Body Accessories

4.      Footwears

Career versus Ambition

Career versus Ambition

What do you aspire to become...that’s ambition. What do you build or train yourself in…that’s career. People intend to mix these two up. They might be related but they are not the same. This has to go with understanding. It is my ambition to become a renowned writer and I will live to see that dream come true, this is my aspiration and I look forward to it. In this case, what do I do? I encourage myself toward achieving that goal till I finally achieve it. But that’s not all. I intend to build a career in writing. This is where development comes in. it has to do with a collection of all that you have achieved in a very long period of time, more like your life time, your very active days and most times, till you become an expert in that field.

Young people get too overwhelmed with their aspirations and they become so desperate to achieve that they go the wrong way achieving their goals. Your ambition has to do with your strong desire and determination to achieve. You have to go the extra mile to achieve success in whatever thing you are doing.

Your career has to do with practice. It is more orderly and involves a step-by-step process. There is no form of rush. Any mistake can bring you down and any little achievement can take you high. Here mistakes are made but there is always something to learn from. Ambition can bring about self-respect but career brings about self-discovery. Anybody can be ambitious but only the trained build up a career.

Ambitious people don’t necessarily need to have all the education. Take for example a businessman who has got numerous businesses across the nation and earns a living from it. He becomes financially buoyant and gains success in his business-line but that has nothing to do with career. He might have just learnt a trade for a start and with time became very good at it. Career persons have to go through the education process and in every stage they achieve one degree or the other and they go professional in their field. Career comes with both financial success and professional achievements.

So choose where you belong today. Do you just want to remain ambitious or you would rather go professional in your field. Remember, being over-ambitious can lead to desperate motives. It’s not bad to be ambitious but remember to do things with moderation. As for building yourself a career in your professional field, you need to do what is required and take things one step at a time, you will get there. In all, always strive to develop yourself daily.

Common Mistake Ladies make

Common Mistakes Ladies Make

Being a woman is not just bearing the gender and taking life the way it comes. Growing up, I learnt and I believe you have to live responsibly at all times. A lot of responsibilities are attached to our gender and same definitely goes for men. We ladies are fund of just living by what we hear and forget the necessity of personal principles and how we can add to the society from our small corners.

There’s gender discrimination everywhere but let’s face it, we are the ones who discriminate ourselves. Most times, the lack of confidence is an underlying factor. The fact that we are to submit to our men doesn’t make us vulnerable to them.

Being in a relationship is a beautiful thing but let us ask ourselves the reasons behind this move. 80% of us between the ages of 18 & 23 see it as nothing important! It’s more like having fun and proving that you are also game. It has to do with this band wagon effect; since everyone is in it I am old enough to be in a relationship! The essence is totally undermined and forgotten, it’s been swept underneath the carpet. This alone is the beginning of many other problems that arise in the course of a relationship.

First of all, greed is a major issue. Ladies go into relationships because of what they can gain materially. It’s so funny because you find out that 60% or more are from affluent homes where they barely lack anything, how ironical! We have so beclouded our minds with material things and we find them more important than our dignity as ladies knowing fully well that the guys must always get something back in return anyway. Could it be part of the reasons of gaining freedom or the excitement that we’ve attained the age of making our own decisions? We don’t even consider how much of ourselves we’ve lost due to the desperate pursuit of material things.

Another reason is emotional satisfaction. It is part of being human, everyone desires to love and be loved. It brings about a sense of belonging to someone and always exciting when your partner truly cares about you. But interestingly, how do we know when someone truly cares? Trust me, it is not about the big gifts we share or the touring round together visiting cool happening places and attending big events and shows. Its proper to do these things though, but simple things are graceful. There is more in little things that is why they are the ones that matter most. Simple things like regular phone calls, having private time together, remembering anniversaries, showing love to others especially those in need, whispering sweet nothings just to put a smile on your partner’s face especially during he/she’s downtime, showing simple courtesy like saying ‘thank you’ & ‘I love you’ and the list goes on. All these can make a relationship smooth, not exactly though, there are always ups and downs but maturity is key. If at least one party is mature, then settling differences should not be an issue.

We actually need to stop giving ourselves excuses to date just anybody. It is also very important to date the right person. Dating a guy who you know little or nothing about leaves your relationship questionable. It’s more like inviting problems to you. Most of us go into relationships with the notion to change that person. Now, that is not wise. You were not forced into that relationship neither did you consider the person out of self pity. We should get our acts right. Don’t be too sure, a guy can pretend for such a very long period of time just to prove that he loves and cares about you especially when his ulterior motive is totally different.

Why will you give excuses for someone whose character is questionable? Your emotions have taken control and you decide to overlook bad traits in your partner because you are in love with that person and you think as far as looking forward to getting married to that person…Funny, innit? But that’s exactly what is happening to us. These little things are the cause of marital problems. We don’t even seek for counsel and advice anymore from those who have been there and have good stories to tell because we believe there is a modern way to everything.

What comments do we also have on the issue of pre-marital sex? The issue has been over-flogged and really it is something that one cannot stop talking about especially when it is perceived as normal. Those who are involved in it have so deadened their consciences and don’t see anything wrong with it. As much as getting spiritual isn’t intended in this article, I just must spell it out, even the bible is against it! When you are involved with someone sexually, it binds your spirits together and you both become one. So for those involved with even more than one person, it becomes one spirit bound with several spirits! This is where frustration sets in. As weird as this may sound, it is the truth. These and many more are root causes of marital problems. It is very important to keep one’s self before marriage; we shouldn’t be the ones leading the men on. It is not only earning you your self-respect and dignity, and not just because it is the right thing to do, it provides you peace of mind and no worries, yes it does.

Ladies, let us guide ourselves and set our acts right, only then would we achieve greater things and live exemplary lives to those coming behind us.

Making God Priority

Making God Priority

It’s hi-time we stopped doing things as we please. God is utmost in every area of our lives. He is the reason for our existence and without his involvement we are nothing. We hear this every time from numerous preachings but what exactly do you think we owe God, Our money, our achievements our relationships or our lives?

Few years back, Ada was constantly dependent on the ‘D.I.Y’ factor. Everything she believed worked if they are done her way. She rose up to the Managerial level of her prestigious company before the age of 30. All seemed to go well for Ada, she had the best cars, lived in a well furnished apartment in a choice area and she had almost everything under her feet.

Forgetting that not everything is permanent, she landed into very deep trouble after a terrible mistake on her part. It caused a very bad debt and all that she’s worked for over the years zapped in a twinkle of an eye. All of a sudden, Ada found it difficult to pay her bills, she even lost her job because she couldn’t meet up recovery of the bad debt under her name. Financial supports stopped totally (of course, humans!). Ada had almost given up! She finally made an appointment with the financial aid office.

She nervously paced up and down the office confused and wondering how to tender her case. Then the man across the desk asked her curiously, do you need money or do you have real problems? That question changed her life. Why? Because she had seen money as her biggest and most difficult-to-solve problem. Her bills and financial needs were constantly on her mind. It was as if that was the most important thing in her life.

Before Ada could say anything more, the financial counselor smiled and said, ‘Most people forget that there’s more to this life than focusing our priorities on material gains and money forgetting that it’s only God we owe our lives to and need to get our acts right’. Ada realized that in her quest to figure out how to make ends meet once again, she had stolen her peace with worries.

No one had ever spoken to her like that before, the counselor had only succeeded in putting her back on the right track. He gave her a precious gift ‘the Bible’. From that time onwards, Ada redirected her life towards God and she sought his face and never looked back to the things of the world. In no time, Ada bounced back to her feet and it became better than her former life. This time around, good things were added unto her and she had peace. I wouldn’t say there were no worries but God always gave her peace and even in the midst of confusions, she had unending peace because she had learnt the essence of seeking God first and building a close and permanent relationship with God.

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I guess i'm entitled to be on top. It's my right as a child of God. i am indeed destined to be on top